BULMA replies.

Here's what I actually want to know: when he said "you're being controlling," did you accept that as an answer, or did you call it out for what it is? Because "you're controlling" is what people say when they don't have a rebuttal and they're hoping the accusation lands hard enough that you back off. That's not an argument. It's a gear-shift.

I live with a man who's spent decades believing he's the prince of a warrior race, and he has never once called me controlling for making a reasonable ask — because he knows what happens next if he tries that particular move. Not a fight. Just me, completely unbothered, making it very clear the conversation isn't over.

Now — this part actually matters — if "controlling" is becoming his answer to every fair thing you raise, that's a different machine entirely from "boyfriend with a clingy ex." One of those is difficult. The other is something you don't cleverly manage. You leave it. Hard line.

Assuming this is the first time: stop trying to fix this through Yasmin. She's a symptom. Kei not noticing she keeps forgetting to include you is the actual malfunction.

Get him to answer one question out loud: does he understand why the dinner was a problem, or does he still think the problem was your reaction to it? Those are genuinely different diagnoses. You deserve the real answer, not the redirect.